Gender, homosexuality, heterosexuality, and marriage as Christians, followers of Jesus Christ. Hey, let’s discuss these topics today! This oughta be fun, right? Well, this could get very deep and extremely personal, but, that’s what we are here for: to learn, to question and to be inspired by the truth. Follow me….

Let me start by saying this will not be a “I am righteous and other Christians that choose the homosexual lifestyle are not” judgmental blog. Instead, I want to share with you a revelation that the Lord shared with me today following an in-depth and personal conversation with a good friend of the family.

When the Bible mentions marriage, it is commonly interpreted to mean that it is between a man and a woman, as it began with Adam and Eve in the garden of Eden. OK. No argument there.

Where I am going with this is the ‘why’ I believe God made it to be man and woman.

Now we all agree that men and women are VERY different in many ways, right? Generally speaking and on average, here are some of our differences:
– Men are more single-minded, women are more multi-taskers.
– Men are physically stronger, while women are mentally stronger.
– Men are more fact-based while women are more intuitive and perceive things differently.
– Men like to take charge, but women usually wear the pants in the family (just kidding! No really, we/I often do).
– Men are more level-headed while women are more emotionally driven.
– Men tell the short story version while women tell it with far greater detail.
– Men feel its their duty to provide for the family while women feel the need to provide a good home environment and take care of the family’s emotional needs and physical needs.

It is possible that due to these significant differences between the genders, that men are often drawn to other like-minded men, and women are drawn to other emotionally understanding women. It is easier for them to relate to what they are themselves than to the opposite often alien gender.

For some women, their frustration level of coping with a man boils over like rice in hot water when the lid is left on, while some men just give up and completely walk away since they no longer want to try and understand a woman’s emotions and reasoning.

So yes, it would be so much easier for a woman to choose another woman as she knows the other female will know what she likes and needs and wants in a relationship. For a guy, he can easily choose another guy that doesn’t require so much work in understanding each other like it would with a woman, since most men seem to get each other better. (I don’t know all that a man would think in this situation, so just go with it).

We as Christians must not allow the devil to sway us so easily. He wants us to take the shorter route, the feel-good route, and in so doing, we will miss out on the greatest challenge that life has to offer – marriage with the opposite sex!!

Perhaps when the Lord designed the marriage relationship, the hardest part of all was not only remaining in love with our opposite sex partner for the rest of our life, but realizing that it requires even MORE hard work to relate to them and their needs and them relate to us and our needs.

This directly relates to the Church, the bride of Jesus Christ. Jesus knows that serving and living for Him whilst completely trusting Him will be difficult and extremely challenging. It is contradictory to how the world lives.
The christian lifestyle regularly requires hard work:
– putting another person first, even when you don’t feel like being submissive or giving in,
– going the extra mile to help someone even when you’ve already gone the proverbial 10 miles,
– putting someone’s needs before your own even when you don’t feel like it,
– listening for the tenth time to a story you heard just yesterday,
– trying to understand where the other person is coming from,
– looking at their heart rather than their appearance,
– serving others even when you’d rather be served,
– being open and honest with someone,
– fully trusting that person to be faithful to you as you are to them,
– selflessly being willing to give another the bigger piece or the last piece of the pie,
– forgiving another yet again, even when they don’t deserve it.

And yes, marriage is a life-long challenge. But know this: it is so worth it, because to have overcome so many struggles and challenges in life with someone that is basically your exact opposite, shows how strong a life-long bond can be and is meant to be: the best of friends through thick and thin, for richer or poorer, in sickness and in health, ’til death us do part.

“Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.”
Genesis 2:24

 “Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.”
Mark 10:9

“Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. After all, no one ever hated their own body, but they feed and care for their body, just as Christ does the church— for we are members of his body. “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.”  This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church. However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.”
Ephesians 5:25-33

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Fun facts: The longest recorded marriage (since Old Testament days) lasted 90 years by a couple in the UK – Karam Chand and his wife Kartari.

Photo by: Sebastian Pichler – Couple walks in the woods