It’s your wedding day. You stand facing each other, in awe of the exciting expectation of being with this person for the rest of your life, unaware of the reality that will unfold in the coming years. For now, you are starry-eyed and blinded by love, passion, and a perceived commitment.

Ten years later, you don’t even want to face your mate, let alone be in this relationship for the rest of your life. To live alone sounds much quieter, easier and simpler.

What has changed from your wedding day vows to today? Sure, each of you have changed, gotten older and maybe fatter, but why does that affect your vows? Ok, so you know each other better and their bad habits are bothering you now. Before, you didn’t know of their anger issues, or did you? Before, you believed their dreams were your dreams. Were they? Before, you both spoke kindly to each other and went above and beyond giving your time, money and heart. So why not now? Have both of you become lazy in your marriage?

The truth is, the only thing has has changed with your “I do” between then and now, is that your commitment to remain with your mate no matter what. Your passion’s fire has gone out. Your fairy tale picture of the future wasn’t realistic. The truth is, both parties are human. Both of you are sinful, a mess, and flawed. There is no way to stay committed unless you make that choice to remember why you got married in the first place, then remember who you made that vow to: all that attended your wedding – your spouse, your self, your parents, your guests, the pastor, and God himself.

“But I have this against you, that you have abandoned the love that you had at first. Remember therefore from where you have fallen; repent, and do the works you did at first.”
Revelation 2:4-5a

Passion: a strong, barely controllable emotion. Zeal, fervor, dedication, devotion.

A marriage cannot survive without passion. This passion is much more than the physical drive. It is an intense desire to see your mate grow deeper in their personal relationship with the Lord, with your children, and with you. This passion drives you to find a way! Where there is a will, there is a way, right?

So, if one of you decide its time to end the marriage, will you fight for it? Will you pray about it? How determined are you to make it work compared to your determination before your got married? Will you recognize your own faults before theirs and begin working on them? Remember yesterday’s blog about removing the log from our own eye before taking out a speck from our brother’s? Very applicable here.

Here is a motivation: think back to those intense emotions you felt for your spouse on your wedding day. There aren’t many reasons that cannot be revived! Yes, we can all claim some level of ignorance and naivety before we got married. Regardless, what God has ordained and approved, we should not undo. To feel that sense of true love again, we need to take the focus off of ourselves and our own needs, and see what our spouse needs for their love to be revived. This passion is a trinity: within your body, your mind, and your heart.

“Finally… be like-minded, be sympathetic, love one another, be compassionate and humble.”
1 Peter 3:8

“All the people answered together and said, “All that the LORD has spoken we will do!”
Exodus 19:8a

Food for thought: To be passionate about something is to weather the storm no matter how hard it is. Do you have the bravery needed to weather the storm and embrace your passion of being married?

Fun facts: Life without passion is a life full of emotional control. If you do not ever feel passion for someone or for any goal in life, that goal or person will never affect your decisions strongly.

Photo by: Kari Wiseman – Two flames of fire